Benefits to Unconditionally Loving Your Spouse
1. It eliminates the reason for their complaints (some quite valid) and moves from using energy in a tense stalemate or negative relationship to promote healing. Same energy - different results.
2. You become a help rather than a hindrance to God loving your spouse (and they do deserve His love - and down deep they're hoping and expecting it from you just as you are from them) - and He has new freedom to work through you. You can't do it yourself. He will. You learn to rest.
3. You'll grow like you've never grown before and be healed from your dysfunctions. Isaiah 58:6-12. It lifts you out of the deceptions that have been used to keep you oppressed all your life by the father of lies. Your character will be put on a solid footing.
4. You'll gain the freedom of a love supported by God and based on truth that nothing can change - no matter what the other person does. (Isn't this the kind of love everyone really wants down deep?) This is in contrast with the instability of a "love" based on feelings that sways with circumstances. "I love you today but don't know about next year or five years from now." Scary, and it provides no security for the person being "loved". Why should they open up or trust you? I love you. Period. Case closed.
5. You'll fall in love with your spouse deeper than ever before. Because you'll see them as Jesus sees them, no longer through your own dysfunctions and problems.
6. The mystery of watching God work in profound ways will thrill and delight you. Better than any mystery novel. You will find your needs for love fulfilled in ways you never imagined.
7. You'll fall in love with God.
8. You will not be a victim of them taking advantage of you (even though they may for awhile like people did to Jesus) because you will willingly lay your life down and God will intercede for you better than you ever could. Galatians 2:20. He will act in your behalf and lift you above circumstances.
9. Your self esteem will rise to new heights and you'll like yourself more than ever before - experiencing unconditional joy and unconditional peace.
10. You will find that honoring God (and your spouse) by seeking to love rather than seeking to be loved is fulfilling in itself and forms the foundation for true love to flow to you.
11. God promises to work in your spouse to change them (His time frame, not yours). He also wants to free your spouse from their dysfunctions and fulfill your marriage like you never dreamed. Eph 3:20
2. You become a help rather than a hindrance to God loving your spouse (and they do deserve His love - and down deep they're hoping and expecting it from you just as you are from them) - and He has new freedom to work through you. You can't do it yourself. He will. You learn to rest.
3. You'll grow like you've never grown before and be healed from your dysfunctions. Isaiah 58:6-12. It lifts you out of the deceptions that have been used to keep you oppressed all your life by the father of lies. Your character will be put on a solid footing.
4. You'll gain the freedom of a love supported by God and based on truth that nothing can change - no matter what the other person does. (Isn't this the kind of love everyone really wants down deep?) This is in contrast with the instability of a "love" based on feelings that sways with circumstances. "I love you today but don't know about next year or five years from now." Scary, and it provides no security for the person being "loved". Why should they open up or trust you? I love you. Period. Case closed.
5. You'll fall in love with your spouse deeper than ever before. Because you'll see them as Jesus sees them, no longer through your own dysfunctions and problems.
6. The mystery of watching God work in profound ways will thrill and delight you. Better than any mystery novel. You will find your needs for love fulfilled in ways you never imagined.
7. You'll fall in love with God.
8. You will not be a victim of them taking advantage of you (even though they may for awhile like people did to Jesus) because you will willingly lay your life down and God will intercede for you better than you ever could. Galatians 2:20. He will act in your behalf and lift you above circumstances.
9. Your self esteem will rise to new heights and you'll like yourself more than ever before - experiencing unconditional joy and unconditional peace.
10. You will find that honoring God (and your spouse) by seeking to love rather than seeking to be loved is fulfilling in itself and forms the foundation for true love to flow to you.
11. God promises to work in your spouse to change them (His time frame, not yours). He also wants to free your spouse from their dysfunctions and fulfill your marriage like you never dreamed. Eph 3:20